Greetings from the team at Master’s Apps. We are honored that you have chosen to visit our site.
Since you have ‘clicked-through’ to our MY GOOD GRIEF JOURNAL FOR KIDS site, it is likely that you, your family or someone else who is dear to you, has recently been touched by a loved one’s death.
For eight years I was privileged to serve as a hospice Bereavement Services Coordinator. In that time our amazing team of caring health professionals supported thousands of families as they mourned their precious loved ones.
I observed how many families suffered their grief in silence. Individuals worked to protect other family members from pain. There seemed to be a deep-seeded and unspoken fear that “something I say may cause you to hurt more.” The effect of this anxiety would then keep one from sharing their private pain with another.
This protective instinct was particularly strong between parents and their children. Regardless of the age of the parent or the child each was hesitant to do or say anything that might cause the other emotional pain.
When young children were a part of the family’s grief dynamic the silence was even louder.
Most adults don’t feel comfortable talking with another adult about death, dying, grief or mourning. We don’t know what to say nor how to say it.
The thought of trying to speak with a child whose dearly loved parent, grandparent, sibling or friend has died leaves us even more bewildered and frightened.
The fear of saying “the wrong thing” seals our lips even more tightly. We do not want to do anything that might cause a child to suffer more than he or she already has. And so, we say nothing.
Whether a result of fear, developmental level, or family influence, young children also frequently suffered their grief in silence.
Another factor contributing to family silence after a death is this misconception: If I ignore it, it will go away. One ancient poet described the experience of mourning as a “walk through the valley of the shadow of death.” His point, I believe, is that grief cannot be avoided. You can’t walk around it, get over it, nor run through it.
MY GOOD GRIEF JOURNAL FOR KIDS was created to help families with children give attention to their grief.
It is our hope that in using the app your family will talk with one another about your loved one and your loss. We hope in using it you will create a beautiful and lasting treasure chest filled with memories of your loved one. In a journey overshadowed by death, we pray that it will become a safe place for you to record the thoughts and feelings you are having along the way.
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