TALKING WITH CHILDREN AFTER A DEATH
What do you say to a child after someone loved and dear to them has died? Unspoken questions like these rumble in our heads, betraying natural fears:
- “What if I say the wrong thing?”
- “What if she starts crying or gets angry?”
- “What if I say something that scars him forever?”
LISTENING TO CHILDREN AFTER A DEATH
One of the most precious gifts you can give to a child who is grieving is the gift of your ears.
1 Be Like an AM/FM Radio — the purpose of a radio is to receive signal from the broadcasting station. It does not…
- Give orders
- Give advice
CREATING ENGAGING CONVERSATIONS USING ‘MY GOOD GRIEF JOURNAL FOR KIDS’
In all matters children look to significant adults in their lives and learn from them. This holds true for grief as well. A child you love and care for is following your cues on how to grieve.
To create meaningful conversations regarding the loss your family has experienced:
1Create a Child User account of your own.
2 Do each of the twenty ‘Remembering’ pages. Don’t hurry through them. Do only one page each day.
3Use all the tools the app has to offer — write, draw, import pictures, and make audio and video recordings that reveal your own memories, thoughts and feelings about the death.
4 Share appropriate portions of your journal with your child.
Following these steps will help move both you and your child from being silent mourners to actively communicating and sharing memories of your loved one’s life and legacy.